Parents wish their children to grow up instilled with discipline and good behaviour. Some parents have decided to be strict with them to ensure this is achieved.
Parents need to understand that being strict with kids will not only disadvantage them in developing social skills in life but will also keep them away from possible friends and events.
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Many parents have failed to distinguish between protecting and restricting their children as they grow up.
Social media users have camped on Twitter to share their frustrations at the hands of their strict parents as they grew up. Some explain that they used to practice how to ask for permission and if not accepted, they plan to rebel, but then they just fold.
Jojo: “I’m still 33, and I’m still afraid of my dad, no joke.”
Alex Kolb: “I didn’t even ask because I knew she’d say no, so I just told my friends she said no.”
Young Dee: “Sometimes i plan to rebel, but then I jus fold.”
Mu Deok: “Being strict is good because too much freedom will eventually ruin the kids’ life ( with all the bad influence this world offer). I would definitely set some rules and boundaries for my kids, but too strict is suffocating. Kids will end up rebelling. Life needs balance.”
A user funnily narrated that her parents were so strict that she memorized their footsteps, “I’d be in my room rehearsing way before I actually went to ask them something. I used to wait till they finished the first bottle of wine then boom I came with my requests,” she said.
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Another one by the name of Mary said, “I was so good at lying. All my lies had a backup lie just in case the first one failed and it worked every time. I always asked for forgiveness first.”
Reign Johns said his parents were so strict. He had to start doing everything they asked without question three days in advance just to go out with friends for two hours maximum.
“You have to consider each angle, anticipate questions they’ll ask and have answers for each, practice the speech and starters you’ll use to launch the conversation then practice angles you’ll need to ask for actual permission and then prepare yourself for backup if they say no,” he said.
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According to Johns, this is the far way children have to go just to ask something from their parents.
He adds that sometimes the mother could agree on something, but as days move on, she comes up with excuses as to why his wish would not be fulfilled as agreed earlier.
Many have vowed to ensure that their children never go through that mental trauma that they suffered.
Most parents are particular about the ways of life that they want their children to adopt. However, this has to be communicated in a friendly but firm matter if they have to retain a loyal and open friendship with their children.
