Women Share Experiences on Marriage Conflicts “Leaving is Not a Mistake if it is Misery All the Time”

Married people experience various challenges, differences and conflicts that they have to face. Disputes are eminent since married people are raised in different environments, doctrines, and beliefs.

Women and children are mostly the victims and vulnerable if such cases occur.

Women have come out to share their experiences on marriage conflicts, most of them concluding that leaving is not a mistake if it is misery all the time.

A social media user called Claire said, “I truly discovered it when I started telling friends I’d left my husband, the stories women would tell of how they made miserable situations “work” was appalling. I could always feel the horror on my face.”

Some were disappointed that the increased negative conversation about cultural agenda in marriage intends to force women to stay in abusive marriages for fear of being victimized.

“I am increasingly convinced that there is a cultural agenda to normalize marital misery in order to discourage women from leaving miserable or abusive marriages,” Clare said.

“My coworker always talks about situations where her boyfriend just gets her into huge trouble and how he’s so irresponsible, and every time afterwards, as if to convince herself, she says that the only reason she’d ever leave is if he cheated. Nothing else. It’s horrifying,” she added.

Karen T: “When I was engaged, I was shocked by how many people went out of their way to tell me how hard marriage is. All I did was feel sorry for them, especially in hindsight, as I have a wonderful marriage. Life can be hard, but marriage isn’t.”

Jessy Dinkleberg: “I am not taking s**t from someone who is supposed to love me. I’d rather be alone.”

Rachelle Kaufman: “The sad thing is even when you leave, the majority (but not all) of men will still say “Oh, what about the kids” without ever even considering something like “Was there abuse? Are you okay? Are the kids okay?”

Applause SV: “This is so rife in the Church. Like, do you want your kids growing up thinking THIS Is what marriage looks like? I have a friend who is a CFO. She does all the laundry, 90% of the cleaning, meal planning, grocery pick up &cooking. Her husband expects sex every other day. She won’t leave.”

Louise Robey: “This is why I hate when people reply ‘marriage takes work’ every time women complain about their spouse. It reinforces the idea being unhappily married is normal.”

Tess: “The whole world is filled with men so insecure and fearful of women that they’ll do whatever it takes to control the “threat”. Men know our power. It’s about time we own it.”

Amy Nix: “I’ve never understood the ‘marriage is work’ talk. If you don’t like & enjoy your spouse, that’s not normal. Yes, life throws lemons at us sometimes, but if being married is constant misery or you have to pep talk yourself into facing your spouse every day, get out.

Observivore: “I grew up hearing ‘marriage is designed to make you holy, not happy,’ and it took til my 30s to realize, wait, that’s nowhere in the Bible.”

Esme Weatherwax II: “This applies to men who are married to women too! It’s not normal or okay to live with a wife who hates you, you can leave!”

Another social media user advised parents and relatives to normalize accepting their daughters back from failed marriages rather than burying them due to marital violence.