Life dinner is a scheduled time to check in with your significant other. It is not a replacement for everyday connection but a monthly supplement. A dinner date is a process that builds intimacy, trust, and accountability.
Ben Meer, a social media user who writes about systems and high-performance living, states that with a US divorce rate at 50%, there is a need for new strategies like life dinners to save marriages.
He said that a couple needs to set a recurring calendar invite on the 1st of every month. The session can take as little as 20 minutes. But it is better to have one to two hours allotted if needed
“During life dinner, you will discuss three overarching categories: the first being personal Reflection on last month, second, reflection on last month and lastly Personal goals for Next Month. Some of the questions being, what could I have done better? What was I proud of? How might we want to improve moving forward?” he wrote.
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He went on to highlight some guiding principles:
- No stonewalling. Don’t close up or detach while having tough conversations.
- Be in the moment: Approach everything from a place of love. Ask thoughtful questions.
- Prepare ahead of time. Keep a running journal of things you want to discuss.
Austin Belcak supported the discussion saying it should all be simplified further to just creating time and space that is exclusively for you and your partner.
However, some disagreed with it saying marriage cannot be run as a corporate meeting that is planned for and has a time limit.
“This looks great on PowerPoint, but it reads like a business meeting agenda. Why is the goal rotating around a “power” couple rather than a loving, connected one? Great relationships are maintained by deep intimate bonds, not matriculating image-based life goals. No amount of “life meetings” will make up for a lack of connection on a daily, ongoing basis,” LC De Shay commented.
