A Kenyan life coach has discouraged ladies from telling men that they don’t like them, especially if she is ready for a serious commitment, but the man isn’t.
Benjamin Zulu, An internationally acclaimed life coach and counselling psychologist, advised ladies to avoid telling men that they want serious commitment and not jokers. He said such statement make men to run away from being pressured.
“You don’t communicate it in words. That’s pointless. Just read his energy and see if he is at the same place as you of seeking to settle. If he doesn’t seem to, just edge past him and move on with your search,” Zulu said.
He advised that those planning to settle should go by the current flow, adding that people can use both physical and virtual but not sit and wait.
“Remember you don’t date by sitting and waiting. You move about physically and virtually. You reconnect with old colleagues and check up on new contacts. In some cases a friend will spark. You go with the flow,” he wrote.
He also advised ladies to make sure they dress to impress and always be presentable and glowing in public, especially while showing up for online meetings. Adding that one never knows when suitors spot each other, especially online.
Zulu mentioned that all those who are ready to settle and looking for suitors should be ready to join up in online forums handling relationship-related matters, and they can air their views. He recommended that they should always keep an open spirit and welcome side chats.
“Psychologically, you step up onto the stage and tell all suitors see from a far and wide. Then mingle briefly and quickly with all who came to you. If you adopt this mindset opportunities will open to you every day,” he concluded.
