In the past, when couples were organizing their wedding, it was rare to find them having fundraisers to cater for the events. Even the bridesmaids’ expenses were catered by the couples, a culture that faded off with the current generation.
Anita Gaitho impressed Kenyans by revealing that her best friend was getting married and she was paying for her bridesmaids’ dresses, the kids wedding dresses.
“She is also taking care of the whole bridal shower trip both transport, and accommodation, our wedding hair and make-up. They’re not asking for any money nor help from anyone they want to be part of the wedding,” she said.
The move was welcomed by many of her supporters, saying in the past, that was how it used to be, but suddenly, things changed, and suddenly, weddings became a scene of all sorts of fundraisers.
They lamented that it is quite unfair to ask the couple attendees or team to pony up for them to have to take time out of their schedules and attend or be part of their wedding.
“My friends on the other side are just making me broke, four different wedding dresses in the past one month. I’m not complaining though I’d do it all over again for them,” Eymar Mwikali stated.
Zion Pearl remembered that this was how it used to be until around 2005, complaining that it was very weird to ask someone to be a bridesmaid and then tell them to go to a shop and buy specific dresses and shoes.
“The same persons who ask for contributions towards their dowry payments, unless you will let your wife be a communal property, call me for such help, otherwise ask me for any other assistance but not dowry,” Naman Ryassa clarified.
He went on to explain that bitter realities dawn during some disagreements, and that is when one realizes that one should have not done it that way.
“A self -respecting man shouldn’t purport to pay dowry funded by his friends and relatives. Some will eventually share with him his wife and shamelessly tell him to his face,” Naman warned.