Every parent wants to see their kids succeed in life, but this can only be done if the kids hear stories and lessons that can change their lives.
According to Lan Phan, the CEO and Founder of Community of SEVEN in New York, US, these signals can have an impact on children’s lives for years to come. She also noted that despite most parents doing their best to raise their children, children are often not taught what they need or want as they develop.
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She says that while expressions of love and gratitude, such as “I enjoy being your parent” and “You make me proud,” cannot undo the past, they can remove generational curses. We cannot alter the future, but we can be the person others need us to be for them, she continues. Our deeds come after our words in this situation.
Phan proposed encouraging phrases for parents to use when speaking to their kids; the phrases, she adds, were created by the Center for Psychological Educational Assessment in Atlanta.
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She explains that because her parents were immigrants, she never heard her father tell her, “I love you,” which is what every child wants to hear from their parents. “I cried while reading this list,” she continued. “I wish I had been informed about even half of this when I was younger. Don’t misunderstand me. I know my parents loved me, and I love my parents.”
The following phrases will change the lives of your children if you constantly use them:
1. Am grateful for you
2. You make me proud
3. I love being your parent
4. Your opinion matters
5. You are important
6. I love you
7. I believe in you
8. I accept who you are
9. We can try your way
10. You did your best, congratulations
11. I love your creativity
12. It is fun always being around you
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13. Don’t be afraid to be you
14. Your family wouldn’t be the same without you
15. What you did was awesome
16. I admire you
17. You make my heart full
18. I forgive you
19. I appreciate you
20. We all make mistakes
21. Nobody is perfect
22. You did well
23. That was a good question
24. You are a good girl/boy
25. Watching you grow is the best
Some phrases from the list above can positively transform your relationship or marriage if they are used appropriately and consistently.